In the heat of conflict, probably one of the most difficult things to do is to take a step back and gain perspective.

It isn't easy. We can all recall what happens to us. Our hearts are pounding. We have so much we want to say in response to the other person. We are hurt, angry, and frustrated. With all of the emotion swirling around us, stepping back is the last thing we want to do.

It is true for all of us. Despite years of experience, training, and knowledge, it is easy for me to get drawn into the emotional turmoil that happens when engaged in a conflict.

Still, stepping back, slowing down and breathing is the most important step we can take Just taking a breath, focusing on the process of taking in fresh air and exhaling the air that has given us what we need, is enough to reset our system. It slows down the emotional, cognitive, and physical process. It also allows us space to make a decision as how we wish to proceed.

It only takes a few seconds. However, in that time, many of us can make a clearer decision devoid of the emotional rush. We get a brief break. The respite allows us a moment of silence where we can personally deescalate the conflict as we have slowed down the emotional reaction we are having.

It is only a breath, but in that space, we can begin to make peace.